THE REAL COST OF VIRGINITY

This is a debate that will continue to go on till the world will comes to an end because everybody has their own views and ideology on what should be the cost of a girl losing her virginity. Many of us even tend to forget that boys are born as virgins because once we hear the word Virgins we quickly assume they should be talking about a girl. This is why in a relationship most girls never ask their boyfriends if they are virgins especially if the boy is older than the girl, she just assumes that he is not a virgin some are even of the opinion that they are no virgin boys but that will be a story for another day.

I recently read it on Nairaland where a guy was complaining about how some girls cheaply give away their virginity, he was like some girls lose their virginity over a bottle of Malta and biscuits while some lose it base on just promises, empty promises as a matter of fact and it was this that got me thinking like I normally like to do. While thinking a question came to my mind which I’m going to ask you people too maybe we can share the same view or probably you still need to educate me more on this issue, should there be an actual cost of losing one’s virginity?

The first answer I came up with was the fact that no amount can or should be placed on a girl’s virginity I feel it is more of a personal decision than a monetary or material decision. I mean how much do you think should be placed on a girl’s virginity, you can’t say for sure because there is no measurement or no yardstick in which we can use to measure the worth. The vagina of every girl remain the same until they are deflowered before you can start to quantify it (pardon me for sounding raw) so prior to them been deflowered how do you want to measure their virginity to say this one should cost higher than the other. This is why I think it is wrong to say girls’ gives out their virginity cheaply because the vagina actually has no price tag so how can we say something that has no price tag is cheap. I feel if a girl wants to give her out virginity it should be a personal decision by her and nobody else because only she knows what she intend to gain when she does gives it out. I also feel that girls shouldn’t be enticed by what a guy that is persuading them for sex is offering because no matter what guys might be offering your virginity has no price tag which means it is not for sale. You should only give it out if and only if you feel you need and want to.

The second answer I got was that probably the real cost of virginity should be marriage. Let look at from this angle, we all know that sex before marriage is a sin yet most of us practice it including me (may God forgive us our sins) but have we really asked ourselves why this is so. It has been said that we shouldn’t engage in premarital sex and there have been a lot of reason for this which am not going to go into. It is not stated in any scripture or constitution that a certain price should be paid for a girl’s virginity but I am of the opinion that if we are going to attach a price tag to a girl’s virginity then it should be marriage because that is the only platform where sex is allowed and encouraged. I mean as a guy if you want to have sex with a girl whom you claim you truly love then I think marrying her shouldn’t be a big price to pay and for girls if a guy wants to know how much it will cost to deflower you simply tell him it will cost marriage or what do you all think