As youth we tend to make some mistakes when it comes to our
love relationship and these mistakes sometimes hurt us and sometime we get
lucky enough to get away with them. In this article I would like to talk about
one of the mistakes we make concerning love/romantic relationship
FROM FRIENDSHIP TO LOVE/ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP; Truly
everything starts from being friends but even right from when you are saying yes
I will be your girl/boyfriend some of you will know that you are making a
mistake but you still go ahead to commit yourself to it for one reason or the
other. For example two close friends a boy and a girl as usual goes into a love
relationship because they feel they know each other too well or probably
because they have been good friends for a while and they seem to understand
each other very well so they decided that dating each other won’t be such a bad
idea. Yes it might not be a bad idea in fact it might just be the best thing to
happen to the both of you but you have to take your time to think of what will
happen if things don’t go according to plan. The fact that you have been good
friends and you always get along doesn’t mean when you start dating each other
that your relationship will be perfect. One thing you should know is that once
you start dating the feelings you have for each other as friends will change
and that will automatically change how you guys relate with yourself. This simply
means that you will be moving from the Friendship kind of love to the romantic
kind of love which implies that every other feelings/emotions that has to do
with romantic love will come into play and that is a different ball game
from the feelings/emotions that comes with Friendship. Friendship is a
good thing for those that understand it and some friendships are suppose to
remain what they because if you try to change that feeling you might just be
ruining it. Love is not to be rushed it is a gradual process that grows day
by day and as friends once you notice that your feelings/emotions toward
one another is starting to change you should take your time to understand what
you are actually feeling because a misunderstanding of feelings might just be
disastrous.
NOTE: the fact that you have become romantically involved
with someone that use to be your friend doesn’t mean you should stop been
friends.
Friends do not just get emotional attached with each other
it has to start gradually, most times you see two good friends go into a love
relationship and after a while they break up not because they don’t like
each other but probably because they didn’t understand their feeling and they
just acted on it because they thought it was the right thing to do. The common
mistakes friends do when they start dating is that they stop been friends, I
know the next question is “how do you stop been friends with the person you
are dating?” Believe it or not it is very simple to do that most especially
when both friends just think that it is high time for them to take their
friendship to the next level. Normally when you were friends your feelings for
each other was within the friendship zone but once it became a romantic
relationship you automatically switch off the friend zone switch even
without you knowing it. You begin to concrete more on the new zone that you
have upgrade your relationship to that you might completely forget about the
zone you were coming from. It is advisable that as friends when you decide to
date yourself you should make sure that you actually have a change of feelings
towards each other and not just go into dating because you THINK or you ASSUME
it is the next thing to do. Many of us are always of the notion that “after
friendship what next no be to date” but trust me a true friendship
is worth more than a love relationship built on misunderstanding and
misinterpreting of feelings.
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