MISTAKES YOUTH MAKES ABOUT LOVE/ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP PART 2

In this part of Mistakes Youth Makes about Love/Romantic Relationship we are going to take a look at MISINTERPRETATION AND MISUNDERSTANDING OF FEELINGS and how we can get to correct some of the misunderstood and misinterpreted feelings. You can click HERE to read the Part One in case you missed it.

 Sometimes as youth we tend to misunderstand and misinterpret our feelings towards one another and even adult too, they sometimes fall into this category. The fact that you are having a strong emotional feeling towards someone and you don’t know what to label that feelings doesn’t mean you should assume it is love because there are plenty feelings that are closely related to love which are not love but because we don’t know them, we all assume that for those feeling to be as strong as it is then it must be love. Some of those feelings that are misunderstood and misinterpreted as love are as follows;

•         Lust

•         Obsession

•         Infatuation and

•         Likeness

These feelings are mostly misunderstood and misinterpreted to be love among youths and sometimes among adults also. Generally for you to date someone you have to like that person because it is not LOGICALLY possible for you to date some you don’t like. Also the fact that you like someone doesn’t mean that you can date that person because a lot of us have this mind set of “you like me so why can’t you date me?”

•         Likeness is a very strong feeling that shouldn’t be misunderstood or misinterpreted. The fact that you like someone doesn’t mean that you can date that person, you need to develop an emotion called love before you can date someone, you don’t just date someone because you like that person. Liking somebody comes in different from, you may like someone because that person makes you happy or maybe that person gives you advice from time to time and this is not so when it comes to love.

•         Lust is an emotion or feeling of intense desire for somebody. It is a powerful feeling that produces an intense wanting for something or someone. When you are in lust with someone you always want that person around you, you always want him/her to make you happy no matter what and because of this you feel you are in love meanwhile you are in lust. When you feel the hunger of wanting to be with someone you like every time or once you start to think that if you are not with them then you are doomed, it is safe to say that what you are feeling my friend is Lust and not love. Love is natural, you don’t force it, it comes to you and it is not the hunger for someone. Lust is based on your desire to want something from someone which can be happiness, money or even sometimes sex. When you treat your boyfriend/girlfriend as a prize or an object then you are in lust.

•         Infatuation is when you have an emotional feeling for someone and because of those feelings when it comes to matters concerning that person you can’t think straight. Infatuation prevents one from thinking about someone in a balanced or sensible way. When you experience infatuation your mind is consumed by the thought of the other person. You are thinking of how you want to reveal yourself to the other person, you have an idealized vision of what this person is like and your vision may or may not be accurate. When you are infatuated about someone you begin to worry if that person finds you appealing and you worry about what next after sex. In infatuation, it is always about the sex mostly, that is why after sex you begin to wonder what else to do to keep the relationship going.

•         Obsession is another common feeling that is being misunderstood and misinterpreted among us youth. The facts that the thought of someone has filled your mind continuous and you can’t think of anything else expect that person doesn’t mean you are in love with that person. The funniest thing about obsession that you actually don’t realize is the fact that you only get to think about the person you are obsessed with in a particular way over and over again.

NOTE: love is not about enslaving your mind or focusing your thought on someone.

It is advisable that you always try to sort out your feeling before you engage in any love relationship so as not to get confused along the way. Sorting out your feeling can be very challenging but it is always worth the try and with that been said here are some tips to be sure that you are in love and not any other related feeling.

•   When you are in love, you feel comfortable with your boyfriend/girlfriend and you feel a strong bond.

•      When you are in love you will always appreciate your boy/girlfriend when he/she speaks the truth about you even though that truth might sound hurtful. 
• You are in love if your boyfriend/girlfriend becomes the first person that comes to your mind when you want to share your innermost thoughts.